Let’s be honest here – I’ve been a bit of a stress head of late (which might have come out in last Wednesday’s post, among others).
I think there’s a few key reasons for my stress:
- Moving house
- To do lists!
Cause my blog is as much my journal as anything, I’m just going to workshop it out a little now.
I’ve had to pay close to 4 figures to move house, on top of new rent – all whilst not getting ANY rental income. It’s due at the end of the month, but will be less the expenses (advertising, landlord’s insurance etc), so it won’t be as much as it will be other months. So, basically, I have rent + mortgage + bills for two houses on the same income that used to do mortgage + bills. Naturally, an adjustment.
Then, on top of that, is working through how to budget as a household, not a single being who goes on dates. Suggestions welcomed!! Once I have a day off (which I usually get once every ten days), I shall head to the bank to set up a shared account for shared expenses – hopefully this Friday.
I went from a role where I managed construction projects – so big things, that happened slowly, with lots of warning. I blogged and read blogs and did many other things (managed a water polo club for example) to fill the inevitable gaps in my work flow. For the last few weeks, I’ve been in a maintenance based role. EVERY single day, two crews must have work from me to do. It’s nice to have dedicated staff to do work (in the construction role, I waited to be ‘given’ them on a said date). However, there’s a constant demand for me to output work for them! Then, from the other direction, I have a L-O-N-G list of tasks that all of management are diligently tracking (against my region and others) and hoping to see drop. Let’s say there’s at least 6,000 tasks on said list for me to work on. I hit the jackpot the other day, when 19 tasks = 1 day’s work, but it’s not always that good! Anyhow, I’m constantly analysing spreadsheets and coordinating with the same five people over and over. It’s a HUGE change from what was a much more stop/go mode of my former role. Now it’s mainly go go go (and cheer when it’s the weekend!)
3. Moving House
I always think moving house will be a breeze, cause I’m organised. But it’s not – there’s always so much to ‘settle’. So many little tasks you want done. And you just want to start feeling ‘at home’. Thankfully, as a renter, I asked for a few pictures to be hung and doors and shelves to be planed (so they fit the spaces) – and I got a lovely handyman delivered. I do get joy in doing the tasks, but just having them done is nice too! I have also finally rebuilt my sofa – it now has two arms! And I’ve rebuilt my lovely acro lamp. I’m still getting accustomed to my wardrobe, and the shelves that are less wide then before (see my wardrobe before). The second bedroom shelves are far nicer, but I know once I move stuff in there, the possibility of renting out the spare room will vanish… So I’m hesitating and cursing my small shelves daily.
4. To do lists
As my blog name implies, I like to list. And this weekend, I listed! But then I had a mini meltdown on Saturday – started from frying my nerves driving (even though I drive every day!?). Anyhow, the BF sat down with the list, and assigned priorities to what was on there – I had to achieve one high, one medium and one low each weekend day. And anything extra could hold off (the ‘rest’ were predominantly low – no urgency to get done). In the moment, I may not have been totally on board with the prioritisation. However, as I write this on Sunday afternoon, with the list more or less completed (at least the important stuff), I’m pretty chuffed at his suggestion! I got my run in, I rebuilt the sofa (not again… just once!), I baked and delivered brownies to my neighbours. And (not on the list) I even finished a novel (Amity and Sorrow – I did enjoy it Lucinda!) So, I end this post with – overall, the stress bunny has relaxed a little. For now.